Q Hej snygging, är du ensam? — Hey gorgeous, are you on your own?women
- A Jag är inte ensam. — I'm not on my own.
- A Inte intresserad. — Not interested.
They'll say Jag var bara trevlig. — I was only being friendly.
For the girls (Sweden)
What it sounds like, and how to end it.
Short answerIn Stockholm, say Jag är inte ensam. — I'm not on my own.
Du får ta plats.
Say these at normal volume or louder. Sweden will not think you are overreacting, and staff have a legal duty to step in.
What it sounds like & shutting it down
Q Le lite då! — Give us a smile!women
- A Låt bli. — Don't.
They'll say Sur. — Miserable.
The comeback is the tell: anyone who calls you sur for declining was never being friendly.
Q Jag vill vara ifred. — I want to be left alone.women
- A Okej då. — Fine, then.
Q Ta inte på mig. — Don't touch me.women
- A Jag gjorde inget. — I didn't do anything.
Say it loudly. The volume is the point — it turns heads, and that is what makes it stop.
Q Jag bjuder dig på en drink. — Let me get you a drink.women
- A Nej tack, jag har redan en. — No thanks — I've already got one.
They'll say Synd. — Shame.
Never take a drink you didn't watch being poured, however well it is meant.
Q Gå härifrån. — Go away.women
- A Lugna ner dig. — Calm down.
Q Den där killen stör mig. — That guy is bothering me.women
- A Jag tar hand om det. — I'll deal with it.
Say it to the staff rather than only to your friends. Swedish venues have a duty to act, and generally do.
Q Jag är här med min kille. — I'm here with my boyfriend.women
- A Jaha. — Right.
It shouldn't work better than no. It often does. Use whatever ends it fastest.
Getting away & telling someone
Q Kan du följa med mig till taxin? — Can you walk me to the taxi?women
- A Självklart, kom. — Of course — come on.
Q Jag känner mig inte trygg här. — I don't feel safe here.women
- A Vi går ut tillsammans. — We'll go out together.
You never have to justify this. Trygg — safe, secure — is a word Swedes take entirely seriously.
Q Kan du stanna hos mig? — Can you stay with me?women
- A Jag går ingenstans. — I'm not going anywhere.
Q Jag tror någon har lagt något i mitt glas. — I think someone put something in my drink.women
- A Sätt dig, jag hämtar hjälp. — Sit down — I'll get help.
Tell the staff, not only your friends. Swedish clubs have a procedure for this and will use it.
Q Ska jag hämta någon? — Shall I get someone?women
- A Ja tack — dörrvakten. — Yes please — the doorman.
They'll say Vänta här. — Wait here.
Q Jag hör av mig när jag är hemma. — I'll message when I'm home.women
- A Gör det, lovar du? — Do that — promise?
Q Kan jag vänta här tills han går? — Can I wait here until he leaves?women
- A Så länge du vill. — As long as you like.
Q Gå inte utan mig. — Don't leave without me.women
- A Det gör jag inte. — I won't.