Q Hej snygging, är du ensam?womenHey gorgeous, are you on your own?
- A Jag är inte ensam.I'm not on my own.
- A Inte intresserad.Not interested.
They'll say Jag var bara trevlig.I was only being friendly.
For the girls (Sweden)
How to shut down a creep in Stockholm
What it sounds like, and how to end it.
Compiled by Gabriel Gilles · Updated
Short answerIn Stockholm, say Jag är inte ensam.I'm not on my own.
Du får ta plats.
Say these at normal volume or louder. Sweden will not think you are overreacting, and staff have a legal duty to step in.
What it sounds like & shutting it down
Q Le lite då!womenGive us a smile!
- A Låt bli.Don't.
They'll say Sur.Miserable.
The comeback is the tell: anyone who calls you sur for declining was never being friendly.
Q Jag vill vara ifred.womenI want to be left alone.
- A Okej då.Fine, then.
Q Ta inte på mig.womenDon't touch me.
- A Jag gjorde inget.I didn't do anything.
Say it loudly. The volume is the point — it turns heads, and that is what makes it stop.
Q Jag bjuder dig på en drink.womenLet me get you a drink.
- A Nej tack, jag har redan en.No thanks — I've already got one.
They'll say Synd.Shame.
Never take a drink you didn't watch being poured, however well it is meant.
Q Gå härifrån.womenGo away.
- A Lugna ner dig.Calm down.
Q Den där killen stör mig.womenThat guy is bothering me.
- A Jag tar hand om det.I'll deal with it.
Say it to the staff rather than only to your friends. Swedish venues have a duty to act, and generally do.
Q Jag är här med min kille.womenI'm here with my boyfriend.
- A Jaha.Right.
It shouldn't work better than no. It often does. Use whatever ends it fastest.
Getting away & telling someone
Q Kan du följa med mig till taxin?womenCan you walk me to the taxi?
- A Självklart, kom.Of course — come on.
Q Jag känner mig inte trygg här.womenI don't feel safe here.
- A Vi går ut tillsammans.We'll go out together.
You never have to justify this. Trygg — safe, secure — is a word Swedes take entirely seriously.
Q Kan du stanna hos mig?womenCan you stay with me?
- A Jag går ingenstans.I'm not going anywhere.
Q Jag tror någon har lagt något i mitt glas.womenI think someone put something in my drink.
- A Sätt dig, jag hämtar hjälp.Sit down — I'll get help.
Tell the staff, not only your friends. Swedish clubs have a procedure for this and will use it.
Q Ska jag hämta någon?womenShall I get someone?
- A Ja tack — dörrvakten.Yes please — the doorman.
They'll say Vänta här.Wait here.
Q Jag hör av mig när jag är hemma.womenI'll message when I'm home.
- A Gör det, lovar du?Do that — promise?
Q Kan jag vänta här tills han går?womenCan I wait here until he leaves?
- A Så länge du vill.As long as you like.
Q Gå inte utan mig.womenDon't leave without me.
- A Det gör jag inte.I won't.