Q Na, Süße, ganz allein unterwegs?womenHey gorgeous, all on your own?
- A Ich bin nicht allein.I'm not on my own.
- A Kein Interesse.Not interested.
They'll say War doch nur nett gemeint.I was only being friendly.
For the girls (Germany)
How to shut down a creep in Germany
What it sounds like, and how to end it.
Compiled by Gabriel Gilles · Updated
Short answerIn Germany, say Ich bin nicht allein.I'm not on my own.
Laut werden ist erlaubt.
Every line here is meant to be said at normal volume or louder. Germans will not think you are overreacting — bar and club staff are trained for exactly this.
What it sounds like & shutting it down
Q Komm, ein Lächeln!womenCome on, give us a smile!
- A Lass das bitte.Don't, please.
They'll say Zicke.Stuck-up cow.
The comeback is the tell: a man who calls you a Zicke for declining was never being friendly.
Q Ich will meine Ruhe.womenI want to be left alone.
- A Ist ja gut.All right, all right.
Q Fass mich nicht an.womenDon't touch me.
- A Ich hab doch nichts gemacht.I didn't do anything.
Say it loudly. The volume is the point — it turns heads, and that is what makes it stop.
Q Ich geb dir einen aus.womenLet me get you one.
- A Danke, ich hab schon was.Thanks, I've already got a drink.
They'll say Schade.Shame.
Never accept a drink you didn't watch being poured, however well it's meant.
Q Geh weg.womenGo away.
- A Reg dich ab.Calm down.
Q Der Typ da nervt mich.womenThat guy is bothering me.
- A Ich kümmere mich drum.I'll deal with it.
German bar staff will act on this. Say it to them rather than to your friends.
Q Ich bin mit meinem Freund hier.womenI'm here with my boyfriend.
- A Schon klar.Sure you are.
It shouldn't work better than no. It often does. Use whatever ends it fastest.
Getting away & telling someone
Q Kannst du mich zum Taxi bringen?womenCan you walk me to a taxi?
- A Klar, komm.Of course — come on.
Q Ich fühl mich hier nicht wohl.womenI don't feel comfortable here.
- A Wir gehen zusammen raus.We'll leave together.
You never have to justify this one. "Nicht wohl" is reason enough for any German friend.
Q Bleibst du bei mir?womenWill you stay with me?
- A Ich geh nicht weg.I'm not going anywhere.
Q Ich glaube, mir wurde was ins Glas getan.womenI think something was put in my drink.
- A Setz dich, ich hol Hilfe.Sit down — I'll get help.
Tell the bar staff, not only your friends. German clubs take this seriously and have a procedure for it.
Q Soll ich jemanden holen?womenShall I get someone?
- A Ja, bitte — den Türsteher.Yes please — the bouncer.
They'll say Warte hier.Wait here.
Q Ich schreib dir, wenn ich zu Hause bin.womenI'll text you when I'm home.
- A Mach das, bitte.Please do.
Q Kann ich hier warten, bis er weg ist?womenCan I wait here until he's gone?
- A Klar, so lange du willst.Of course — as long as you like.
Q Geh nicht ohne mich.womenDon't leave without me.
- A Mach ich nicht.I won't.