Q Na, Süße, ganz allein unterwegs? — Hey gorgeous, all on your own?women
- A Ich bin nicht allein. — I'm not on my own.
- A Kein Interesse. — Not interested.
They'll say War doch nur nett gemeint. — I was only being friendly.
For the girls (Germany)
What it sounds like, and how to end it.
Short answerIn Germany, say Ich bin nicht allein. — I'm not on my own.
Laut werden ist erlaubt.
Every line here is meant to be said at normal volume or louder. Germans will not think you are overreacting — bar and club staff are trained for exactly this.
What it sounds like & shutting it down
Q Komm, ein Lächeln! — Come on, give us a smile!women
- A Lass das bitte. — Don't, please.
They'll say Zicke. — Stuck-up cow.
The comeback is the tell: a man who calls you a Zicke for declining was never being friendly.
Q Ich will meine Ruhe. — I want to be left alone.women
- A Ist ja gut. — All right, all right.
Q Fass mich nicht an. — Don't touch me.women
- A Ich hab doch nichts gemacht. — I didn't do anything.
Say it loudly. The volume is the point — it turns heads, and that is what makes it stop.
Q Ich geb dir einen aus. — Let me get you one.women
- A Danke, ich hab schon was. — Thanks, I've already got a drink.
They'll say Schade. — Shame.
Never accept a drink you didn't watch being poured, however well it's meant.
Q Geh weg. — Go away.women
- A Reg dich ab. — Calm down.
Q Der Typ da nervt mich. — That guy is bothering me.women
- A Ich kümmere mich drum. — I'll deal with it.
German bar staff will act on this. Say it to them rather than to your friends.
Q Ich bin mit meinem Freund hier. — I'm here with my boyfriend.women
- A Schon klar. — Sure you are.
It shouldn't work better than no. It often does. Use whatever ends it fastest.
Getting away & telling someone
Q Kannst du mich zum Taxi bringen? — Can you walk me to a taxi?women
- A Klar, komm. — Of course — come on.
Q Ich fühl mich hier nicht wohl. — I don't feel comfortable here.women
- A Wir gehen zusammen raus. — We'll leave together.
You never have to justify this one. "Nicht wohl" is reason enough for any German friend.
Q Bleibst du bei mir? — Will you stay with me?women
- A Ich geh nicht weg. — I'm not going anywhere.
Q Ich glaube, mir wurde was ins Glas getan. — I think something was put in my drink.women
- A Setz dich, ich hol Hilfe. — Sit down — I'll get help.
Tell the bar staff, not only your friends. German clubs take this seriously and have a procedure for it.
Q Soll ich jemanden holen? — Shall I get someone?women
- A Ja, bitte — den Türsteher. — Yes please — the bouncer.
They'll say Warte hier. — Wait here.
Q Ich schreib dir, wenn ich zu Hause bin. — I'll text you when I'm home.women
- A Mach das, bitte. — Please do.
Q Kann ich hier warten, bis er weg ist? — Can I wait here until he's gone?women
- A Klar, so lange du willst. — Of course — as long as you like.
Q Geh nicht ohne mich. — Don't leave without me.women
- A Mach ich nicht. — I won't.